Her five stages of grief—originally developed to map patient responses to terminal illness—have become famous. Most disturbingly, the expectation that bereaved persons will, even should, go through stages of grieving can be harmful to those who do not.
Bargaining no longer feels like an option and we are faced with what is happening. Table 1. We provide uplifting, hopeful comments or even try to offer them humor to help ease their pain.
Sadness and regret can still be present in this phase, but the emotional survival tactics of denial, bargaining, and anger are less likely to be present. Allow yourself time to process all of your emotions, and when you are ready to speak about your experiences with loved ones or a healthcare professional, do so.
How to Cope with Negative Emotions Depression During our experience of processing grief, there comes a time when our imaginations calm down and we slowly start to look at the reality of our present situation. This is a sense of hopelessness and sometimes anger where the bereaved person may withdraw into depression.
There are alternative models that better represent grieving processes. We also tend to make the drastic assumption that if things had played out differently, we would not be in such an emotionally painful place in our lives.
Complex nature of coping with loss Takes no account of recuperative purpose of avoiding reality of death at times of doing other things to regain strength to cope. There is an acute awareness of our humanness in these moments when we realize there is nothing we can do to influence change or a better outcome.
We do our best to offer comfort, but sometimes our best efforts can feel inadequate and unhelpful. Implication of smooth progression Notion of replacement of one stage by another poorly represents all we know about the course of grief over time, particularly regarding the fluctuations between emotions and cognitions that typify grief and grieving.