In recognizing how to stop the tango 4 one can move into getting at the core of the problem. Section three gives techniques to help people improve skills. As the saying goes we can all sing at the same time but we all cannot talk at the same time. I will train my mind to stay focused on the talker, engaging myself in what they are saying.Petersen has brought a new fresh perspective in the communication model. He describes it as our stomach expand with mixed emotions which cause our heart to turn into bricks sending our relating ability to respond inappropriately and ultimately the upward expansion from our heart causes our brains to flatten to the top of our head Hawkins, Ronald E. I would stay clear of giving advice, even when prompted to do so. He further explains how the card can be employed by discussion groups, families and couples to improve their listening abilities. Peterson also confesses that he is still on the verge of learning. The heart is the functionality of a person. The stomach is the personal part of us, our emotions and feelings, which are not debatable. Using hem and haw would keep me from giving advice or interrupting with my own thoughts, using generic responses like, I see and thats interesting. Specifically, the recognition that individuals lean into their potential only when solutions emerge from within helps mitigate the risk of attempting to fix or control Petersen , I am committed to listen more and talk less. As proverbs , reminds us; grievous words stir up anger but a soft answer turns away wrath. Honestly, what bothers me the most about this book is the level of responsibility it expects me to take. The art of listening is one that has to be worked at and one that has goals as well. Today we are shortening our words because of social media such as texting.
I will use the skills that are outlined in chapter eighteen to improve my ability to listen. He gives these examples to illustrate how to counter problems and people suffering from miscommunication.He describes it as our stomach expand with mixed emotions which cause our heart to turn into bricks sending our relating ability to respond inappropriately and ultimately the upward expansion from our heart causes our brains to flatten to the top of our head I will train my emotions to be still until I have gathered all the information and am able to release them with clarity and intention. It is a design that promotes dispute and idle banter in real dialogue. He does not use the typical therapeutic terms but uses everyday layman words to discuss and explain his scenarios. My skills today are not the best but I hope in the future these skills will be better so I can succeed in my career. Jesus edified using words. If my spouse starts to "dance," I have the option to participate or not. This simply shows how wrong we can be just because we have not stopped to listen. They do this by achieving two goals first there is sharing of thoughts and feelings Ibid.
Sometimes I find myself in so many tangoes within a day, I start to get dizzy. Petersen uses such basic elementary techniques that will help a person to become a better communicator.
Usually he lets loose and I hold back. The brain is the central area of our communication this is where we find and form our words to say.
When we feel like someone is harming us through words before we react allow the Holy Spirit to control our tongue. The listener is calm because they do not own the problem. This puts the other person at odds because they have not been heard but manipulated.